Want to know more about your primary Anxiety Language?
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Discover the secret language your anxiety is speaking—and unlock the powerful keys to healing, empowerment, and true alignment.
What are The Anxiety Languages?
They’re an innovative framework I created to help you understand the subtle ways your anxiety is speaking to you—kind of like learning a secret language your body and mind are using to send messages. Instead of just focusing on calming symptoms, this approach reveals the deeper signals behind your behaviors, thoughts, and physical sensations—like panic, racing thoughts, or tension—that are actually your survival strategies. When you learn to understand this ‘language,’ therapy becomes even more effective because you’re addressing root causes, not just surface symptoms. Plus, you can start using anxiety as a tool for empowerment, because it acts as a compass, guiding you toward what’s out of alignment in your life. It’s a way to turn your anxiety into a powerful resource—showing you what needs your attention, so you can heal, grow, and live more authentically.
In 2020, after working with over 30 clients a week who all struggled with severe, debilitating anxiety—panic attacks, racing thoughts, difficulty breathing, and physical symptoms that kept them stuck—I realized there had to be a better way. Dozens of people were suffering on waitlists, overwhelmed by intensity that was taking over their lives. I saw firsthand that anxiety doesn’t start with panic attacks or physical symptoms; it begins long before with subtle behaviors, mindsets, and survival strategies that most of us overlook.
So, after thousands of hours, I created The Anxiety Languages—a transformative framework designed to decode how anxiety is speaking to us. It helps you understand and address the root causes before anxiety spirals into a physical disorder rooted in emotional and spiritual blocks. At its core, your anxiety isn’t the enemy; it’s a clear message from your internal self, revealing unresolved wounds, emotional patterns, or energies that aren’t true to your authentic self. When you learn to interpret this language, you unlock powerful insights and tools to heal deeply, quickly, and sustainably—and finally reclaim your peace and freedom.
The Overachiever Language
If you have the Overachiever language as your primary AL, this means your core fear is feeling unseen and undervalued, driving cycles of anxiety and stuckness. You often make lengthy to-do lists and have ambitious 10-year plans. Your inner work is hidden in patterns of ambition and hyper-independence. You rarely take the time to appreciate yourself and may feel uncomfortable receiving praise, as life can feel transactional. Letting yourself receive or rest is challenging, and your anxiety is reflected in your inability to slow down, an obsession with achievement, and a tendency to live for the future. You might catch yourself thinking, “I’ll rest when” or “I’ll be happy once” Core Fear: Being unimportant, unseen, or undervalued. Recommendations: Creative expression, like dance or art, to help you be present and process emotions without pressure. Celebrate perceived failures. Focus on the feelings you want to experience each day instead of tasks.
The Martyr Language
You have the Martyr language as your primary AL. This means your core fear is feeling like a bad person, undeserving of love or good things. You often feel compelled to say yes, prioritizing serving others to be perceived as good. Saying no can feel like risking a relationship or facing punishment, driving you to seek validation in your actions. You struggle with guilt when asserting boundaries and often compare your suffering to others to dismiss your feelings. This can lead to frustration when people demand more from you while feeling less connected when those needs disappear. Your anxiety speaks through the need to always be “the helper,” sacrificing your well-being. You might say, “I’m fine, as long as everyone else is okay,” though you know that's not true. Core Fear: Believing you are a bad person unworthy of love. Recommendations:
Explore boundary-setting workshops and assertiveness training. Weightlifting helps you build resilience and enforce boundaries.
The Controller Language
You have the Martyr language as your primary AL. This means your core fear is feeling like a bad person, undeserving of love or good things. You often feel compelled to say yes, prioritizing serving others to be perceived as good. Saying no can feel like risking a relationship or facing punishment, driving you to seek validation in your actions. You struggle with guilt when asserting boundaries and often compare your suffering to others to dismiss your feelings. This can lead to frustration when people demand more from you while feeling less connected when those needs disappear. Your anxiety speaks through the need to always be “the helper,” sacrificing your well-being. You might say, “I’m fine, as long as everyone else is okay,” though you know that's not true. Core Fear: Believing you are a bad person unworthy of love. Recommendations:
Explore boundary-setting workshops and assertiveness training. Weightlifting helps you build resilience and enforce boundaries.
The Pleaser Language?
The Pleaser language is your primary Language. Your core fear is abandonment, believing you must keep others happy to feel worthy of love. This leads to mirroring others' desires and losing your identity, often resulting in feelings of loneliness, even in crowds. Your anxiety manifests through a desperate need to please, making interactions feel hollow. You may think you’re introverted but feel overwhelmed in groups because you can’t mirror multiple people at once. If someone is upset, you might instinctively want to flee. You’ve learned that the safest way to survive is to become what others desire, but this leaves you feeling disconnected. Core Fear: abandonment and unmet needs. Recommendations: Engage in energetic cord-cutting and intuitive exploration, while DBT can be beneficial. Try solo outings or write "Open When" letters to yourself.
The Numb(er) Language
You have the Numb(er) language as your primary AL. Your core fear is connecting with your emotions and true self, leading you to numb your feelings, resulting in addictive behaviors or a desire to escape. Your anxiety speaks through avoidance and detachment, making emotional connection feel daunting. You learned early on that parts of yourself—emotions, desires, or mistakes—were threats to your survival, leading to shrinking or detaching from those aspects. To compensate for this loss, you might turn to external things, making them part of your identity. As you numb one area, it inevitably spreads to your whole self, chasing dopamine hits just to feel anything. Core Fear: Connecting with self and emotions. Recommendations: Engage in somatic experiencing, try Holotropic breathwork, and explore art therapy for emotional release. Energy healings help reconnect your body with your soul. Incorporate mindful movement like dance to reconnect with your body and emotions.
“Once we learn to understand how Anxiety speaks, we unlock the most powerful and effective compass to staying aligned with our healthiest & happiest selves AND knowing what we need to heal. Anxiety is just a sign we are destined for more joy in life”
Annamarie Green
Hey, I’m Annamarie!
— a healer, thought leader, and the creator of The Anxiety Languages™. After my own journey through darkness and doubt, I’ve dedicated my life to helping you break free from anxiety, depression, and overwhelm by blending energy healing with proven therapy techniques — so you can heal deeply, trust your intuition, and live boldly with confidence and joy.
