Are You A Messy Fish? Welcome TO MESSY FISHES ONLY!

Hey Messy Fish. Welcome, (to Alleria) Welcome, Welcome, Welcome. Points if you know what movie that is from, haha. Anyway, this is my blog. Messy Fishes Only (MFO)! I have spent much time avoiding creating and writing a blog - even though I LOVE WRITING. And I love communicating with you all. Why? I am one hell of a messy fish. I am a messy fish - just like you. No matter how much I've grown, the healing I have done in the last 6 years, or how big my dreams are.

So because this is my first OFFICIAL MFO post, I want to introduce myself, the blog, and its inspiration. Honestly, anything I feel is crucial for you to know.

Let's start off with the name. You would not believe how long it took me to create a title. Nothing felt 100% me. Until the other night, while sitting on the floor of my bathroom journaling and meditation and when I asked my future self, who do we love to work with? She said ""messy bitches because we are a messy bitch” - which I LOVED! However, the name still didn't feel 100% me - even when I thought about talking to all of you - I wasn't 100% into using bitches as a tagline. I don't use that in everyday life - so why force it in business? But then something beautiful happened - as I sat with it - I was reminded of this term one of my best friends and I used all the time - ""Fish."" Instead of ""bitch” or ""biotch"" we would call each other a fish - especially when one of us was being stubborn or wouldn't listen to advice (sound familiar, lol). And I love that term - for me, it's endearing, and if you think about it - the symbolism is ON POINT (I'll explain that later).

Thus, Messy Fishes Only was born. My intention for this blog is to create a space to make you laugh, feel seen, motivate you to love yourself, and free yourself from bullshit living (AKA living life for others). I hope it feels like a home for you - and that you know you're not alone. So who is a messy fish? So glad you asked. Messy Fishes are those who are trying their best, who dream big dreams, but are TERRIFIED and even paralyzed by the fear of failing. Failing ourselves but mostly failing others. We are the people who shoot for the stars and put others before ourselves. People pleasing feels almost natural in a sickening way. We can feel frauds in every space in our lives and frequently feel unseen. It is for everyone who daydreams of more but feels stuck in less. For those of us who feel we must grind, hustle, be perfect, and prove ourselves to rest or experience happiness.

We are messy mother elfing fishes. Putting ourselves second or last! Forcing ourselves to swim and live in waters that don't support our well-being or aren't where we want to be. But most of the time, we are just trying to survive.

I've been a messy fish for as long as I can remember (my friends will confirm), but I also see the beauty in my life and how far I've come. Being a messy fish is a lifestyle, and navigating it to make it dope AF is what I am here to do. In this blog, I will share stories from my messy life, tips and tricks to navigating the mess, and different things that hopefully help you. Prepare to break some messy habits with me and hopefully experience some hot girl healing.