A Brief Deep Dive into the Energetics of Childhood Anxiety

I get a lot of questions from my fellow moms out there about the anxiety they witness their children experiencing. So I figured this was a perfect place to provide some of that information. Now I won’t be able to dive into all of the information (I’d need to write a whole book). But I did want to discuss one of the most common energetic root causes of the challenging, anxious, or fearful behaviors we see in kids (and yes, anxious behavior and fearful behavior are different in my eyes - I can discuss that some other time). 

The Promises we make to ourselves and our kids while we are pregnant and the fears, traumas, intense emotions (linked to the past) that come up when pregnant play a HUGE role in our kids mental health and behaviors and even their sense of self. And this isn’t something to berate yourself about or feel guilty about - it is a natural thing because our kids are LITERALLY corded to us. But I want to explain what happens - so essentially the vow you silently make about the way their life will be versus how yours was usually comes from a place of unprocessed emotion such as fear, anger, abandonment, grief, etc. There’s love in there too - but energetically your kids are also connecting to and cording**(see vocab explanation at the bottom) to your past events/experiences and their relationship with you becomes tangled with your past traumas. Now if you are asking “what the heck does that mean?” Here’s an example:

I was doing a healing for a boy (9 yrs old) who was experiencing A LOT of anxiety. He would socially isolate himself, difficulty connecting w/ peers, overly concerned about the well being of his parents, and struggled with regulating his fear and emotions in general. When doing the healing what I uncovered was that mom had a couple of traumas and while pregnant with him (her first) she made a vow that she would never let him suffer from strangers and be in danger the same way she was as a child. She did this out of love but also out of unprocessed emotion - the anger, panic, and grief from her childhood was still playing a role. And many times the things we have been able to push to the back of our mind and don’t want to deal with tend to come forward when we become mothers. 

But energetically his connection with his mother’s trauma created this fear of the world. One that his parents didn’t understand because there were no causes. He was distrusting of new people and was constantly concerned about the health and survival of his parents (even though they have always been healthy and happy his entire life). But energetically he was operating from his mother’s trauma. It created an energetic cord which influenced the mind, body, and spirit to function differently. 

I first discovered this while doing a healing on a friend’s 5 year old daughter. Her daughter was experiencing a lot of anxiety around going to school, separating from her mother, difficulty regulating her emotions and the challenges seemed to come on out of nowhere since she had previously attended preschool and done fine. Except that there was less time with her mother because school would now be full day. Through the healing we discovered that my friend (client’s mother) had a fear of separation from her own mother because of past traumas and when her child was born she struggled with Postpartum and intense separation anxiety. These strong and unprocessed emotions were corded to her daughter and were creating energetic and emotional distress that then showed up physically in her behavior and attitude.

After I made this realization of how cords start to show up in Utero, I had a look at my own energetic connection with my daughter and long behold I came face to face with overwhelming emotions that I had experienced while pregnant completely engulfing my little baby. For me there was this feeling of failure and mistakes, powerlessness, and a vow that I would never allow anyone to make her feel powerless. Which created in my daughter a perfectionist attitude from an early age. Now her energy is naturally very thoughtful, intelligent, and organized (she’s a virgo sun and rising after all). But the outbursts and panic she would have when she made a mistake was out of the ordinary. Once I saw this in the reading - I immediately recognized my own emotions and survival strategies when faced with making a mistake in my tiny spunky “girl-power” 5 year old. I performed the healing and there is a definite shift in her behavior - most especially the determination in arguing her point against her “messing up “. It’s actually pretty funny. 

Anyway, back to the point. So many of us think that “acting strong” and just ignoring or pushing past our emotions is the best way to serve our kids but it actually is the opposite - because our kids know when things are up. Especially early on when they are most corded to us for the sake of survival (if something spooks you - their bodies know to react to help them survive). The more you invest in yourself and help yourself energetically, mentally, and physically move on from the past the better off your kids will be. 

Anxiety has many root causes and it is unique and different for each individual. Because Anxiety is really a nerve ending - an emotion telling us something from our energy and our soul. Getting to the energetic root will help you understand your kids and bring them more success and happiness. 

If you are interested in getting to the bottom of your child’s anxiety, challenging behavior, or difficult relationship with you I’d love to help. You can schedule a 30-minute healing or discovery call today to see what would be the most supportive for you and your family. Click HERE to schedule today!

Until next time Fishes! Stay Messy
Anamarie Green

**Vocab From Today’s Post:

Cording: Energetic link between two or more energetic masses (people, places, things, memories, events, emotions, etc). Cording ties these things together and can often create a codependent or exhausting relationship between the energies. Resulting in behavioral, mental health, emotional, physical, and social challenges for the individual(s).

Energetic Root: This is the core/base level of anything. The energetic root is the energy base of any situation. Where is the problem rooted in and the energy holds the memory, situation, and details as to what is happening and why physically or mentally.